Job #2 let me leave a little over an hour early today because we were slow. I could have picked up Peanut from her after school program early, but I know she was looking forward to going. T won’t be home from work for another half hour or so. I decided to take this opportunity to run to Target and pick up a few things that Peanut needs for school (along with a few things that we didn’t need), stopped at Dollar General to pick up snacks for the gift basket the girls from work are putting together for our friend who is leaving, and come home to write today’s blog entry.
It’s not often that I’m wide awake, feeling productive, and have a quiet house. Usually I prefer to take that opportunity to nap. However, since Peanut pointed out last night that I was on the computer a lot yesterday (I had quite a few posts to catch up on) and one of my resolutions was to spend less time on there, I thought I’d get this done before she gets home so that I can focus my attention on her.
As moms we’re always running somewhere or busy doing something. There’s always something around the house that needs to be done, an errand to run, and the endless task of laundry for which there’s no cure. We put our families’ needs before our own and we constantly give of ourselves for their sake. It’s in the programming. But every once in a while it’s nice to just sit back and do something for ourselves. Maybe you get your nails done or go to the spa, maybe you like to take yourself out to lunch and read a book in peace, maybe you hide in the bathroom with your phone and play a game (I’m not judging). Whatever it is you do, I hope you do something for yourself when you start to get run down. I hope you realize that you are no good to your family if you are worn out. It’s okay to be a little selfish now and then and say that you need some “Mommy time.”
My mom and stepdad are so amazing that they watch my daughter on the weekends so that T and I can both work. She sleeps over there on the Friday and Saturday nights that she doesn’t spend with her dad. I drive up there to see her on those days so that I still get to spend some time with her, but honestly, she could care less if I’m there or not. They are both so attentive and amazing with her that she prefers to be there than almost anywhere else in the world. They truly look forward to her being there, however, my stepdad still goes on his hunting weekends when it’s in season. He takes off to his friend’s cabin and Mom and Peanut have a girls’ weekend. Next weekend, my mom already let her know that she is going out with the girls on Saturday night. My daughter was so offended that she couldn’t be a part of this girls’ night. I had to explain to her that even Grandma needs a girls’ night with just adults once in a while. Please keep in mind, my mom is one of those women who give and give and give endlessly. I’m glad she’s finally taking some time out for herself.
Now that I’m pregnant, I don’t really have any desire to go out with the girls. Not that I was much of a drinker before, but the whole atmosphere doesn’t really hold any glamour for me. I’d rather be home cuddled up on the couch with my family and my pets. I’d rather have our family game night. If by some miracle, T and I have a weekend night off together, I’d be perfectly content ordering takeout and binge watching Netflix for the night. But I still need some kind of respite. Sometimes I’ll take myself out to lunch with a book I’ve been meaning to read. Other times, I’ve taken myself to the movies to see something I know no one else in the house has any intention of seeing. I don’t do these things often, but it’s a welcome change when I do take that time for myself.
What do you do to relax and get your head back in the game? How do you treat yourself?
I’ll write again later!